Marriage Restoration 

1 

Surrender

Stop defending and start confessing. Invite God to move into your brokenness and soften your heart. This is where the rebuilding begins.

• Teaching:

  • True transformation begins with total surrender. We examine the fall of Adam, pride of Saul, and humility of David to understand why God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble.

• Deliverables:

  • Surrender Worksheet

  • Daily Prayer Starter Guide

  • Marriage Health Self Assessment 

• Exercises:

  • Complete a 3-part marriage health assessment 

  • Craft and speak a personal surrender prayer aloud daily

  • Record a private confessional video

2

Fatih

Stop begging and start believing. You become a man of resurrection faith that unleashes God's favor. Do exactly what I did to build true faith.

• Teaching: ​

  • Jesus thanked God before Lazarus rose. Faith is speaking resurrection when nothing looks alive. Learn to speak life in the midst of pain and death.

• Deliverables: ​

  • Lazarus Visualization Guide

  • Printable Declaration

  • Resurrection Scripture Set

• Exercises:

  • Watch the Lazarus scene and Syed's personal testimony

  • Identify and destroy your personal faith blockers

  • Learn how to pray and declare chain-breaking shalom​​

3

Purity

Stop sinning and start to hear from God again. This goes beyond sexual morality and sin - it’s about your motives, pride, and hypocrisy. Reconnect and be reconciled to God.

• Teaching: ​​

  • "Blessed are the pure in heart." Purity isn’t about filters. It’s about your true motives. This week focuses on fasting, confession, and intentional soul cleansing through the finished work of Jesus.

• Deliverables: ​​

  • Fasting & Self Control Challenge

  • Complete Purity Checklist

  • Heart Detox & Conviction Journal

• Exercises:

  • Complete a 7-day digital and physical fasting challenge​​

  • Bring awareness to every moment of temptation  

  • Develop self control and healthy coping mechanisms

4

Moral Inventory - Part 1

Stop pretending and victimizing yourself. Face your failure and feel the fire of conviction.  Partner with the Holy Spirit to receive personalized guidance to heal your trauma and faith blockers. 

• Teaching: ​​

  • The Holy Spirit is a person that wants a personal relationship with you and now is time to partner with him

• Deliverables: ​​

  • David's Confession and Restoration

  • Moral Inventory Worksheet

  • Emotional Damage Impact Map

  • Spiritual Covering Partnership Search

• Exercises:

  • Hear testimonies of supernatural marriage restoration

  • Identify exactly how you have hurt your spouse 

  • Customized accountability action plan​

5

Moral Inventory - Part 2

Stop repeating and start repenting. Go deeper into the root causes of your failure and generational trauma. You have may have not caused the pain, but you will finally learn how to move beyond it as a man of God.

• Teaching: ​​

  • Understanding Exodus 20 and how to overcome generational trauma and partner with Holy Spirit to live your true mission

• Deliverables: ​​​

  • Moral Inventory Worksheet

  • Ikigai Personal Mission Discovery 

• Exercises:

  • Review and confess moral inventory 

  • Identify personal mission from God

  • Update accountability action plan​

6

Character

Stop reacting and being impulsive to your circumstances. Start the process of sanctification. Becoming consistent, less reactive, more grounded to rebuild trust by being a trust-worthy man of character. 

• Teaching: ​​​

  • The fruit of the Spirit starts with self-control. Like Nehemiah rebuilt walls, we begin building boundaries.

• Deliverables: ​​​

  • Spiritual Boundaries Worksheet

  • Celibacy Commitment Card 

  • Self Control Tracker and Guide

• Exercises:

  • Design and erect spiritual boundaries 

  • Complete self-control tracker

  • Complete 7-day celibacy challenge

7

Convenant

Stop trying to win her back and start honoring God. Create a covenant before God to do the right thing whether your reconcile or divorce.

• Teaching: ​​​​

  • Covenant isn’t based on conditions. It’s based on calling. Whether she stays or walks, God is still watching. 

• Deliverables: ​​​​

  • Family Oath Template

  • Convenant Reflection Guide

  • Divorce Preparation Checklist

• Exercises: ​

  • Craft personalized family oath

  • Affirm your position on custody, property and spousal support 

8

Confession

Stop hinting and start being completely honest. This week equips you to fully confess without blaming or manipulating and let the power of God go to work. A full confession spoken in truth and in selfless love has the power to start a super-natural healing and reconciliation process.

• Teaching: ​​​​

  • James 5:16: "Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed."

• Deliverables: ​​​

  • Full Confession Preparation Workbook

  • Post-Confession Recovery Plan

• Exercises:

  • Create a full written confession 

  • Deliver your full confession (if safe). Let her feel, question, and grieve - without trying to control it.

9

Restoration

Stop seeking rewards and recognition for doing what you are expected to do as a husband. Start demonstrating integrity, selfless sacrifice and radical honesty without trying to artificially please her. Understand and accept that God has already explained how you must treat his daughter. 

• Teaching: ​​​

  • Ephesians 5:25: "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her”

• Deliverables: ​​​

  • Love Inventory Worksheet

  • Silent Acts of Service Guide

• Exercises: ​

  • Perform 5 silent acts of love and document how you felt -  not how she responded - what that means to God​

10

Resurrection

Finally stop making excuses and start being the man you were always called to be with full and continuous accountability.  Realize that Jesus called Lazarus out, but Lazarus had to walk out. This week, you step into the life God has prepared, whether or not your wife follows.

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• Teaching: ​​​

  • Ezekiel 36:26-27: "I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. And I will put my Spirit in you and move you to follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws."

• Deliverables: ​​​​

  • 90-Day Spiritual Plan

  • Discipleship Commitment Card

• Exercises:

  • Write and speak your transformation testimony. Share it with one man. Begin discipling someone.​​