This Is a Crusade Against Divorce (And Why I’m Not Sorry About That)

A Holy War for the Heart of Covenant, the Future of Families, and the Soul of Biblical Manhood

Description: We’re not neutral about divorce. This is a holy war—a crusade against the lies, the compromise, and the cultural apathy that has normalized covenant-breaking. And we’re not apologizing for the fire, the fight, or the call to fearless conviction.

Introduction: The Lines Are Drawn

Let’s be clear:

This is not a soft conversation. This is not a gentle suggestion. This is a crusade.

Not with swords. Not with anger. But with fire in our bones, tears on our faces, and truth in our mouths.

This is a spiritual war for

• The covenant of marriage

• The strength of fathers

• The future of our sons and daughters

• The holiness of the home

• The honor of the Bridegroom—Jesus Christ

And yes, it’s a crusade against divorce.

Not against those who’ve been wounded.

Not against the broken.

But against the spirit of rebellion that has infected the modern family.

1. The War Began When We Called Divorce “Normal”

We didn’t lose this battle when divorce became legal.

We lost it when the Church stopped crying over it.

When we

• Treated it as a phase

• Taught it like it was inevitable

• Offered sympathy instead of repentance

• Gave resources instead of rebuke

Now, it’s common.

Expected. And even celebrated.

But God never changed His mind:

“I hate divorce,” says the Lord. – Malachi 2:16

This is not about shame.

This is about honoring what God calls holy.

2. This Isn’t Just Cultural—It’s Demonic

This crusade isn’t against people. It’s against principalities (Ephesians 6:12).

The enemy hates covenant.

Why?

Because:

• Marriage reflects Christ and the Church

• Families build generational legacy

• Fathers carry spiritual authority

• Unity gives God glory

So the devil doesn’t just tempt individuals.

He attacks the very institution God designed to carry His presence through generations.

Every time a divorce happens, something sacred is severed.

And we’ve stopped treating it like a tragedy.

3. We Don’t Apologize for Calling Divorce Sin

That word makes people squirm.

But let’s be honest:

• Adultery is a sin.

• Abandonment is a sin.

• Bitterness is sin.

• Emotional coldness is a sin.

• Unforgiveness is sin.

• Leaving a covenant without God’s permission is sin.

We don’t say this to condemn.

We say it because you can’t repent from what you won’t name.

You want freedom?

Call sin what God calls it.

Only then can you walk in mercy, healing, and resurrection.

4. This Crusade Is About More Than Marriage—It’s About Manhood

Men, listen:

If you’re a Christian husband and you’re planning to leave your wife, you are walking out of your calling.

Marriage isn’t a contract. It’s a spiritual mantle.

God made you.

• Head of the home

• Priest of the household

• Watchman on the wall

• Shepherd of your family

To walk away from your marriage is to drop the sword God gave you.

This isn’t just about marriage—it’s about what kind of man you are.

5. We Are Raising a Generation Without Fathers

Every time a man files for divorce, a child learns:

• That vows are optional

• That love is disposable

• That masculinity is passive

• That God must not be faithful

Fatherlessness is not a statistic—it’s a spiritual emergency.

“He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children.” – Malachi 4:6

But how can He, when men are turning their hearts to freedom, to pleasure, to escape?

You want to fight the enemy?

Stay home. Stay married. Stay on your knees.

That’s war.

6. Yes, There Is Grace—But Grace Isn’t Permission

Let’s get this straight:

Yes, there is grace for the divorced. Yes, there is healing for the broken. Yes, there is mercy for every failure.

But grace does not mean

• God approves of rebellion

• You’re exempt from repentance

• The standard has changed

Grace is power to live holy—not permission to live selfishly.

If you’ve been divorced, this is your call:

• Repent where needed

• Forgive who hurt you

• Return to covenant living

• Lead with humility from your scars

But don’t justify what God died to redeem.

7. This Crusade Is for the Men on the Fence

If you’re reading this and you’re

• Fed up

• Emotionally drained

• Considering separation

• Halfway out the door

Then hear this:

Do. Not. Leave.

Not before you’ve:

• Fasted

• Wept

• Confessed your sin

• Sought real discipleship

• Asked God what He wants—not just what you feel

The world says:

“You deserve to be happy.”

But the cross says:

“Die to yourself.”

Marriage is not about happiness—it’s about holiness.

8. Counseling Alone Won’t Save Your Marriage—But the Cross Can

Therapy has a place.

Communication tools are helpful.

But let’s be honest—they’re not enough.

Because this isn’t just about

• Childhood wounds

• Attachment styles

• Conflict resolution

It’s about sin, surrender, and spiritual warfare.

No amount of coaching can fix what only crucifixion can resurrect.

You want a new marriage?

Die to the old man.

Let God raise up a husband like Christ.

9. The Church Must Stop Tiptoeing Around Divorce

Pastors, leaders, preachers—this is for you:

Stop being silent.

Stop:

• Tiptoeing around divorcees

• Fearing offense

• Using soft language

• Avoiding the fire

Call men back to covenant.

Preach repentance.

Model restoration.

Teach the weight of vows.

Stand in the gap for families on the brink.

If the pulpit won’t sound the alarm, who will?

10. This Crusade Is Not About Legalism—It’s About Revival

Don’t mistake our passion for performance.

This isn’t about legalistic pride. It’s about resurrecting honor.

We want

• Husbands who fast instead of flirt

• Fathers who pray instead of escape

• Men who carry weight instead of shift blame

• Churches that weep over divorce like they weep over death

• Sons who watch their dads bleed for love—and become men of covenant because of it

This is a revival of covenant courage.

And it starts with you.

Conclusion: This War Is Worth Fighting

We are not sorry.

Not sorry for being bold.

Not sorry for calling out compromise.

Not sorry for fighting for marriages that everyone else gave up on.

This isn’t just a blog.

It’s a battle cry.

The lines are drawn.

Culture has picked its side. So have we.

We stand with:

• The cross

• The covenant

• The call to crucify comfort

• The command to love like Jesus

• The men who don’t leave

This is a crusade.

Not against people—but against the powers that destroy what God calls sacred.

And if you’re in—then rise.

Put on your armor.

Fall on your face.

Take back your home.

And lead like it’s your last day on earth.

Because God still hates divorce.

But He still resurrects men.